Mercalius Posted January 19, 2013 Report Share Posted January 19, 2013 I meant just cleaning up the mess I make cooking. We share the responsibility of repairing the messes I make around the house Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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NashvilleNinja Posted January 20, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 20, 2013 This How the hell do you expect me to have time to respond to such a verbose response? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alzarius Posted January 20, 2013 Report Share Posted January 20, 2013 How the hell do you expect me to have time to respond to such a verbose response? Because I honestly didnt take you seriously. I assumed you were trolling but if you want a repsonse, Ill give you one. Love isnt what someone can do for you, its about all that you are willing to do to make that persons life better. If and when you ever understand that, and have an opposite that understands it as well, you wont care how well they can cook. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 20, 2013 Report Share Posted January 20, 2013 Why do you do it by choice and how is that "man[ing] up?" I read it like he thinks you should take being dominated like a man. Don't whine about it like some little bitch. Accept that you're a pussy and deal with it and dont cry. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
NashvilleNinja Posted January 20, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 20, 2013 Because I honestly didnt take you seriously. I assumed you were trolling but if you want a repsonse, Ill give you one. Love isnt what someone can do for you, its about all that you are willing to do to make that persons life better. If and when you ever understand that, and have an opposite that understands it as well, you wont care how well they can cook. What "inspired" this thread was someone on my FB posted a status update talking about how he wouldn't waste his time with a woman who didn't know her way around a frying pan. I took that as chauvinistic myself at first (the guy does fancy himself as quite the 'alpha male'), but I started thinking about it more from the practical side of things. To some people the financial aspect of a relationship is trivial, yet it's one of the biggest reasons for divorce in this country. (*Irritatingly-obligatory/painfully-necessary Titans Report disclaimer: no, I'm not making some dumb ass assertion that the inability to cook is a reason to get divorced... unless the bitch is trying to poison you* ) The point is that people spend more time thinking about how they make the other person feel/how the other person makes them feel than they do thinking about the fact that they'll be living with this other person and all the practical things that entails. Btw, I get (i.e. I understand) the notion that when you're not as worried about trying to get something out of the other person as you are worried about giving something to the other person you're not going to be worrying so much about their "deficiencies" at this or that. FYI, ICYMI, FWIW... you're not talking to a dumb ass and selflessness isn't exactly a difficult concept to grasp. But I digress... I think people on this board really need to take a page out of CTF's ganja book or something and loosen up. It's just a topic of discussion, folks. Not a candidate for the Declaration of Co-Dependence. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alzarius Posted January 21, 2013 Report Share Posted January 21, 2013 What "inspired" this thread was someone on my FB posted a status update talking about how he wouldn't waste his time with a woman who didn't know her way around a frying pan. I took that as chauvinistic myself at first (the guy does fancy himself as quite the 'alpha male'), but I started thinking about it more from the practical side of things. To some people the financial aspect of a relationship is trivial, yet it's one of the biggest reasons for divorce in this country. The money becomes an aspect because they do not understand love, or understand the meaning of "for better for for worse" Money should not dictate how you feel about someone. Granted its only my opinion, but money becomes an issue because of peoples inabliity to control their emotions and stress. The point is that people spend more time thinking about how they make the other person feel/how the other person makes them feel than they do thinking about the fact that they'll be living with this other person and all the practical things that entails. I agree 100% Btw, I get (i.e. I understand) the notion that when you're not as worried about trying to get something out of the other person as you are worried about giving something to the other person you're not going to be worrying so much about their "deficiencies" at this or that. Thats what I didnt know if you understood. You would be surprised, or actually you probably arent surprised, to know that there are a LOT of people out there that dont get or understand that FYI, ICYMI, FWIW... you're not talking to a dumb ass and selflessness isn't exactly a difficult concept to grasp. Selflessness is an easy concept to understand. However, not easy to apply and practice. Again, Im sure you see it every day how people cant understand the simple concept. But I digress... I think people on this board really need to take a page out of CTF's ganja book or something and loosen up. It's just a topic of discussion, folks. Not a candidate for the Declaration of Co-Dependence. Thats what we are doing, discussing lol. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
NashvilleNinja Posted January 21, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 21, 2013 The money becomes an aspect because they do not understand love, or understand the meaning of "for better for for worse" Money should not dictate how you feel about someone. Granted its only my opinion, but money becomes an issue because of peoples inabliity to control their emotions and stress. I get what you're saying. Every couple is going to face problems regardless of how they plan. That's just life. But a lot of financial problems often arise because of people's inability to manage their finances properly. The emotions and stress due to those problems takes a toll on people. IMO, it's short-sighted to marry someone who is foolhardy with their finances regardless of how you might feel about them otherwise. Honestly, if you're marrying someone it's typically for more reasons than just how you feel about them or because of a desire to not be alone. You want to build a family with them. Otherwise why get married? What's the point? Why not just remain in a dating-type relationship with them? Thats what I didnt know if you understood. You would be surprised, or actually you probably arent surprised, to know that there are a LOT of people out there that dont get or understand that Believe me, I do. I've seen friends/former-friends get married and then divorced because either they or their wives (or both) were narcissistic asshats who didn't belong in the marriage to begin with. Selflessness is an easy concept to understand. However, not easy to apply and practice. Again, Im sure you see it every day how people cant understand the simple concept. Yep. Thats what we are doing, discussing lol. Ah... carry on, then. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinman Posted January 21, 2013 Report Share Posted January 21, 2013 Might as well ride a bicycle with no pedals.. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alpha Posted January 21, 2013 Report Share Posted January 21, 2013 I read it like he thinks you should take being dominated like a man. Don't whine about it like some little bitch. Accept that you're a pussy and deal with it and dont cry. No lie, that's what it read like at first to me as well Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 21, 2013 Report Share Posted January 21, 2013 Ninja made tjhe mistake of putting woman, cook and expect in the same sentence. Society tells us everyday this is very very wrong and some people react accordingly. Next he might want a nice personality. Or maybe a woman who doesn't weigh 400 pounds. What an asshole! How dare he want what he wants. He's supposed to want what we tell him he wants. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 21, 2013 Report Share Posted January 21, 2013 Money fucks up everything and if you enter into a relationship at all you better have the ability to talk openly and honestly about money and realize your own tendencies and insecurities, and when you are being reasonable or aren't. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alzarius Posted January 21, 2013 Report Share Posted January 21, 2013 I get what you're saying. Every couple is going to face problems regardless of how they plan. That's just life. But a lot of financial problems often arise because of people's inability to manage their finances properly. The emotions and stress due to those problems takes a toll on people. IMO, it's short-sighted to marry someone who is foolhardy with their finances regardless of how you might feel about them otherwise. Honestly, if you're marrying someone it's typically for more reasons than just how you feel about them or because of a desire to not be alone. You want to build a family with them. Otherwise why get married? What's the point? Why not just remain in a dating-type relationship with them? Dont get me wrong, I agree with you on this. Rushing into a marriage before taking all things into account usually ends up in a divorce. You cant marry for that "fuzzy feeling" you get. I know many people who have low self esteem and as soon as a guy comes along that knows how to say something nice to them for a week or two, they are in love. As far as money, it HAS to be taken into account but people really dont think it through. I married debt when I married my wife. I thought about it and figured out it didnt mean much to me in the long run. However its also something I thought about for a while. You are right that people must definitely take everything into account when it comes to money, and lifestyles. Cooking is low on the list but at first I thought you were just being shallow. Ah... carry on, then. yea I was far from bent out of shape about it, was just discussing Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alzarius Posted January 21, 2013 Report Share Posted January 21, 2013 Ninja made tjhe mistake of putting woman, cook and expect in the same sentence. Society tells us everyday this is very very wrong and some people react accordingly. My opinion is that society should be the last thing you listen to, society is what is fked up. Next he might want a nice personality. Or maybe a woman who doesn't weigh 400 pounds. Nice personality and weight are traits to consider whether you want to be with a woman. What they can cook shouldnt be. What an asshole! How dare he want what he wants. He's supposed to want what we tell him he wants. Everyone can have thier own wants and needs but should a 15 year old do what they want to do because they "want" to? Its called making bad decisions bases on their wants. That 400lb woman, could be everything you wanted if she lost 200 lbs. Or at least a hell of a lot better than the 120 lb woman who treats him like crap. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alzarius Posted January 21, 2013 Report Share Posted January 21, 2013 Money fucks up everything and if you enter into a relationship at all you better have the ability to talk openly and honestly about money and realize your own tendencies and insecurities, and when you are being reasonable or aren't. My wife gave up the "comfortable" life to be with me "poor life" We have been stressed for money for quite some time over the past 1.5 years, but have not argued over it a single time. Talking openly and honestly is the single most important thing in a relationship imo. Communicate how you feel. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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